I stopped by to see you today. I know you know how much it hurts me to do it, but here I am, fighting to hold back tears. We miss you, please watch over Mom. Love you. -Meg
Thinking of you and your family as the holidays approach.x / Diana&Pauline Of Angel Norma Starkey (friend on memory )
2007 Out of the Darkness Walk / Laurri
Walk Report Well we went the distance!
It was 5k not 5 miles so it was very easy. It was a beautiful fall day and we walked through a paved path in a forest preserve. There were over 500 walkers and over $96,000 was raised for the day. Thanks to all the generous donations, Ru's crew raised a little over $4,000! I was stunned, I thought I would be pushing it to have a $500 goal. Thank you to everyone for your prayers and support!
I have to tell you, it was very hard putting faces to all these lost loved ones as many had signs and t-shirts with pictures on them. It makes the cause seem all that more urgent. Please read to the bottom of Rosies site for more information on suicide prevention to help get the word out. Thank you!
We started out in last place and I am proud to say that we firmly held our position!
Please support Rosies family "Ru's Crew" as we participate in the 2007 Out of the Darkness Walk.
All support, whether financial, physical or prayerful is deeply appreciated!
July 4th / Rosemary Sis Of Alvin Cremeans
Condolences/ Tom Pinkowski Jr. (Friend) I am so sorry for your loss, I couldnt believe it when u returned my message. Rosie was a great person, always full of joy and lots of energy!! Everytime I saw her she was running up to me and jumped on me to give me a huge hug. She always had a smile on her face and like mentioned in the web page her smile defenitely lit up the room, I think I saw that before I saw her when she was running to me!! :) It is a terrible loss, and I only wish I would have had the chance to see her again, because it has been a long time, and sadly...it will be a long time till I see her again!
R.I.P Rosie..I miss u!
I am so sorry!! Tom Pinkowski Jr.
Thank you Tom, for your kind words and being Rosies friend!
Thinking of you Angel / Rosemary Sis Of Alvin Cremeans
Thinking of you Angel. She is very beautiful. I love her precious smile. I will keep your family and her friends in my thoughts and prayers. Rosemary sis of Alvin Cremeans xoxo
On Your Angelversary! / Lucinda~Gma2Angel Sheyenne Chappell (Angel Friend )
Thinking of you and your family on You Angel Date!!
Keeping you and your family in our prayers! Beard & Chappell Family
For your Angel Date / Melissa Eiler (Visitor~Daughter of Irwin & Renee Eiler )
thinking of you / Precious Memorials
A Memorial Day Tribute / Rosemary Sis Of Alvin Cremeans
You will never be forgotten Rosie. xoxo
This is the "normal" of all grieving parents. / LAURRI LOWE (mom) What is "Normal" After Three Years?
Normal is having tears waiting behind every smile when you realize someone important is missing from all the important events in your family's life.
Normal for me is trying to decide what to take to the cemetery for Birthdays Christmas, Thanksgiving, New Years, Valentine's Day, July 4th and Easter.
Normal is feeling like you know how to act and are more comfortable with a funeral than a wedding or birthday party...yet feeling a stab of pain in your heart when you smell the flowers and see the casket.
Normal is feeling like you can't sit another minute without getting up and screaming, because you just don't like to sit through anything.
Normal is not sleeping very well because a thousand what if's & why didn't I's go through your head constantly.
Normal is reliving the accident continuously through your eyes and mind, holding your head to make it go away.
Normal is having the TV on the minute I walk into the house to have noise, because the silence is deafening.
Normal is staring at every girl who looks like she is Violet & Iris's age. And then thinking of the age they would be now and not being able to imagine it. Then wondering why it is even important to imagine it, because it will never happen.
Normal is every happy event in my life always being backed up with sadness lurking close behind, because of the hole in my heart.
Normal is telling the story of your children's death as if it were an everyday, commonplace activity, and then seeing the horror in someone's eyes at how awful it sounds. And yet realizing it has become a part of my "normal".
Normal is each year coming up with the difficult task of how to honor your children's memory and their birthdays and survive these days. And trying to find the balloon or flag that fit's the occasion. Happy Birthday? Not really.
Normal is my heart warming and yet sinking at the sight of something special Violet & Iris loved. Thinking how they would love it, but how they are not here to enjoy it.
Normal is having some people afraid to mention my Violet & Iris.
Normal is making sure that others remember them.
Normal is after the funeral is over everyone else goes on with their lives, but we continue to grieve our loss forever.
Normal is weeks, months, and years after the initial shock, the grieving gets worse, not better.
Normal is not listening to people compare anything in their life to this loss, unless they too have lost a child. NOTHING. Even if your child is in the remotest part of the earth away from you - it doesn't compare. Losing a parent is horrible, but having to bury your own child is unnatural.
Normal is taking pills, and trying not to cry all day, because I know my mental health depends on it.
Normal is realizing I do cry everyday.
Normal is disliking jokes about death or funerals, bodies being referred to as cadavers, when you know they were once someone's loved one.
Normal is being impatient with everything and everyone, but someone stricken with grief over the loss of your child.
Normal is sitting at the computer crying, sharing how you feel with chat buddies who have also lost a child.
Normal is feeling a common bond with friends on the computer in England, Australia, Canada, the Netherlands and all over the USA. but yet never having met any of them face to face.
Normal is a new friendship with another grieving mother, talking and crying together over our children and our new lives.
Normal is not listening to people make excuses for God. "God may have done this because..." I love God, I know that Violet & Iris are in heaven, but hearing people trying to think up excuses as to why two young girls ages 4 & 5 years were taken from this earth is not appreciated and makes absolutely no sense to this grieving mother.
Normal is being too tired to care if you paid the bills, cleaned the house, did laundry or if there is any food.
Normal is wondering this time whether you are going to say you have two children or no children, because you will never see this person again and it is not worth explaining that Violet & Iris are in heaven. And yet when you say you have no children to avoid that problem, you feel horrible as if you have betrayed those children.
Normal is avoiding McDonald's and Burger King playgrounds because of small, happy children that break your heart when you see them.
Normal is asking God why he took your children's life instead of yours and asking if there even is a God.
Normal is knowing I will never get over this loss, in a day or a million years.
And last of all, Normal is hiding all the things that have become "normal" for you to feel, so that everyone around you will think that you are "normal".
Violet Anna Carey was born November 29th, 1996. Her baby sister Iris Mary was born June 30th, 1998. Both of our precious daughters died together in a gas explosion as they slept in the same bed. We were sleeping in another bed right beside them. ~ Heath & Tara Carey
God Bless you Heath and Tara. Many hugs for you.
ROSIE'S ETERNAL FLAME AND MEMBER CARD / Precious Memorials
For Mom on Mothers day today precious Rosanne with love x / Valerie Haslett Ian's Wife
A Suicide Survivors Beatitudes / Laurri Lowe (Loving Mom )
BLESSED are those who recognize our grief is compounded; that we grieve the death of a beloved person but foremost, we grieve the cause of the death...suicide. BLESSED are those who give us permission to mourn the loss of one dearly loved, free of judgment, censure and shame. BLESSED are spiritual guides who relieve our concerns for the repose of our loved one's soul with the truth that God is All-Knowing, All-Loving and All-Forgiving. BLESSED are those who don't offer the meaningless cliché, "Time Heals", because, for a long while, the passing of time holds no meaning or value for us. BLESSED are those who don't say, "I know just how you feel", but instead say, "I am here for you. I will not tire of your tears or your words of sorrow and regret." BLESSED are those who have the patience and love to listen to our repetitive obsession with WHY? without offering useless answers or explanations. BLESSED are those who reaffirm the worth of our deceased beloved by sharing memories of his/her goodness and times of fun, laughter and happiness. BLESSED are the mental health care providers who explain to us that, very probably, our loved one died of a terminal illness called depression. BLESSED are those who challenge our sense of omnipotence with the reminder that no one has enough power or control over another to cause them to end their life. BLESSED are the first responders to our loved one's suicide who try to relieve our sense of guilt and responsibility by assuring us "This death is not your fault". BLESSED are those who lend acceptance to the value of the relationship we shared with the one who died by allowing us to speak of them and 'what might have been'. BLESSED are those that allow and encourage us to use our loved one's death in a manner that gives our loss and grief meaning and purpose. BLESSED are those who do not expect us to find "closure", "grief resolution", "recovery" or to "be healed", understanding that these terms define 'grief work in progress' that will take the rest of our life. BLESSED are community caregivers who direct us to suicide bereavement support groups where our anguish is understood, our loss validated and where we are encouraged by the example of others who have traveled this road before us. BLESSED are long-term survivors after suicide who role-model not only can we survive, but, in time, we can thrive…we can regain peace of mind, restored confidence, renewed productivity and a revived zest for living.
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For Rosie's family / Irena Hill (UK) (Nanny to angel Kayleigh Erceg )
We thought of you with love today But that is nothing new. We thought about you yesterday, And days before that, too. We think of you in silence, We often speak your name, Now all we have are memories, And your picture in a frame. Your memory is our keepsake, With which we'll never part. God has you in His keeping, We have you in our hearts.
kayleigh-erceg.memory-of.com
Hi glad you liked the poem "A message to my Daughter" No I did not write it but it is beautiful though. The one above was posted on my Grandaughter Kayleigh's site I do hope the memories you have of your beautiful Rosie will help you at this sad and heartbreaking time. We lost Kayleigh almost 7 years ago infact 14 Jan will be her angel day. We only had her for 15 wks but thank god for every precious second. Please visit her site to read her story.
the above link is a wonderful site which I use a lot for graphics poems etc. take a look its all free. Hugs to you and your family it is easy to see how loved & missed Rosie is. xoxoxox Irena
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